Do Children Have a Say in Divorce Decisions in the UK?
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

Do Children Have a Say in Divorce Decisions in the UK?

Children have a legal right to be heard during separation, but in practice that right is rarely protected in the way it should be. In this episode of Conflict to Connection, Helen Adam OBE joins Bill Hewlett and Mitch Wilkins to explore what child inclusive mediation actually involves, why it isn't yet standard practice, and why that needs to change.

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New Episode: Is My Child Hiding How They Really Feel About the Divorce?
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

New Episode: Is My Child Hiding How They Really Feel About the Divorce?

In the latest episode of Conflict to Connection, Helen Adam OBE joins Bill Hewlett and Mitch Wilkins to explore what children really carry during separation, and why the adults around them so often have no idea. Helen draws on decades of practice to make the case for child inclusive mediation, not as an optional extra, but as the thing that changes everything.

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More Than "Resilience": Protecting Your Child’s Mental Health During Separation
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

More Than "Resilience": Protecting Your Child’s Mental Health During Separation

Emotional readiness is rarely the same for both parents during a separation, and this imbalance is often the reason mediation can struggle to work. In our latest podcast episode, Bill Hewlett and Professor Anne Barlow explore what it really means to support family repair, helping each parent find their footing at their own pace, so the process can hold space for children's wellbeing rather than rushing past it.

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Is Mediation "Ready" for You? Navigating Emotional Readiness in Separation
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

Is Mediation "Ready" for You? Navigating Emotional Readiness in Separation

Standard mediation assumes both parents arrive with the same emotional clarity, but the reality is often far more complex. In our latest episode of Conflict to Connection, Bill Hewlett and Professor Anne Barlow discuss the myth of the "level playing field" and how a focus on emotional readiness and "family repair" can prevent mediation from becoming an adversarial forum.

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The Common Law Marriage Myth: Why Cohabiting Parents in England Face a Legal "Travesty"
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

The Common Law Marriage Myth: Why Cohabiting Parents in England Face a Legal "Travesty"

In England and Wales, "common law marriage" is a legal myth that leaves many cohabiting parents in a vulnerable position. In this episode of Conflict to Connection, Professor Anne Barlow (University of Exeter) joins us to discuss the "legal shock" many families face during separation and how child-inclusive mediation can provide the essential framework that the law currently lacks.

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Answering Your Questions About Children, Conflict and Separation
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

Answering Your Questions About Children, Conflict and Separation

Does separation harm children? Why do children reject a parent? And what actually helps when conflict has gone on for years? In this Q&A episode of Conflict to Connection, we answer questions submitted by parents and explore what children need most during separation. The full conversation offers clarity, nuance, and a child-inclusive perspective for families navigating difficult decisions.

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How to Tell Your Children You Are Separating
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

How to Tell Your Children You Are Separating

Telling your children you are separating can feel overwhelming. Many parents focus on finding the right words, but children respond just as much to what they feel in the room. How you show up together matters more than saying everything perfectly.

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The Beckhams’ Story Isn’t an Uncommon One
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

The Beckhams’ Story Isn’t an Uncommon One

The recent Beckham family story has sparked intense public debate but behind the celebrity headlines lies a deeply human experience. This piece looks beyond blame to explore how pressure, trauma, and misalignment can strain family relationships, and why many situations like this are not beyond repair.

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“If the conflict stopped, the problem would stop”: What children actually tell mediators
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

“If the conflict stopped, the problem would stop”: What children actually tell mediators

When children are given the chance to speak openly about their experience of separation, they rarely ask for different arrangements. Instead, they talk about the conflict between their parents and the emotional toll it takes.

In this episode of the Conflict to Connection, child inclusive mediator Mabel Edge shares real examples from her work, revealing what children actually say when they feel safe enough to be honest, and why reducing conflict matters far more than perfecting schedules.

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The Transformative Power of Child Inclusive Mediation
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

The Transformative Power of Child Inclusive Mediation

This week on Conflict to Connection, we were joined by Mable Edge, Co-Founder and Director of Children First Mediation, for one of the most candid and insightful conversations on child inclusive mediation we’ve had to date.

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who gets the kids at christmas?
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

who gets the kids at christmas?

Who gets the children at Christmas is one of the most emotionally charged questions after separation. This article explores how to approach Christmas arrangements in a way that reduces conflict and keeps children’s wellbeing at the centre. With insight from Elizabeth Fletcher at Family Law in Partnership, it looks at common arrangements, emotional considerations, and how clear, child-focused planning can help families navigate the festive period more calmly.

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5 Ways to Improve your Co-Parenting Relationship in 2026
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

5 Ways to Improve your Co-Parenting Relationship in 2026

A new year can be a helpful moment to reset the emotional tone between co-parents. This piece explores five simple, steady ways to strengthen your co-parenting relationship in 2026, with insight from James Pirrie at Family Law in Partnership.

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Your First Christmas After Divorce: How to Make It Easier for Your Children (and You)
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

Your First Christmas After Divorce: How to Make It Easier for Your Children (and You)

Your first Christmas after divorce can bring up grief, guilt and uncertainty, but you don’t need to make it perfect. Children need clarity, calm routines and emotionally available parents. This guide, with insights from Relationship Therapist Jo Harrison, explores simple ways to support your children and care for yourself during your first Christmas apart.

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Navigating Blended Families
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

Navigating Blended Families

In this episode of the Conflict to Connection podcast, Mitch, Bill, and Bella delve into the intricacies of managing relationships within blended families, offering insights and compassionate guidance for those navigating this pivotal change.

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Understanding attachment styles
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

Understanding attachment styles

In this episode of the Conflict to Connection podcast, hosts Mitch, Bill and Bella delve into the fascinating world of attachment theory, an essential tool for anyone facing separation or divorce, particularly in high-conflict situations.

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7 Steps to Healthier Coparenting After Divorce
Kesia Bendinelli Kesia Bendinelli

7 Steps to Healthier Coparenting After Divorce

Coparenting after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially after a high-conflict separation. This guide offers seven clear, practical steps to help parents lower tension, rebuild trust and support their children through change.

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