The Transformative Power of Child Inclusive Mediation
In a world where family disputes often resemble drawn-out battles rather than opportunities for healing, Child Inclusive Mediation emerges as a beacon of hope. In the latest episode of the Conflict to Connection podcast, Mitch from Civilised Separations is joined by Mabel Edge, a leading voice in the mediation world and a co-founder of Children First Mediation. Her pioneering work is reshaping how families navigate the complex terrain of separation and conflict.
Mabel Edge, Children 1st Mediation
WHat is Child Inclusive Mediation?
Child inclusive mediation is a specialised approach within family mediation that ensures the voices of children are heard during the process of conflict resolution. Mabel Edge believes in integrating child inclusive practices to achieve more holistic and long-lasting resolutions. She shares that often, the real crux of family disputes is not the logistical details of custody or school decisions, but rather the underlying conflict between parents.
Navigating Parental Resistance
Parental resistance to child inclusive mediation can be profound. Despite mediators offering this option, many parents are reluctant to involve their children in what they perceive to be adult issues. Mabel addresses this challenge by focusing on how to effectively communicate the benefits of including children's voices in the mediation process. She highlights that understanding and acknowledging children's needs and perspectives can dramatically shift the dynamic between parents.
The Power of Children's Voices
Mabel recounts numerous instances where children's candid insights have influenced their parents profoundly. She shares a particularly powerful story of a child who, when asked what the most important change for her would be, simply stated that she wished her parents would stop arguing. This clarity often hits parents hard, sparking a realisation of the impact their conflict has on their children.
Challenges Within the Mediation System
Despite the transformative power of child inclusive mediation, systemic challenges remain a significant barrier. Mabel discusses frustrations with the rigid structures and outdated systems governing mediation practices. These systems often fail to accommodate the nuanced human relationships that mediators deal with, and changes are needed to enhance flexibility and responsiveness.
The Need for Change
Mabel argues for a reformation of the mediation accreditation and training processes. She believes that the current systems do not adequately prepare mediators to handle the complex emotional landscapes they encounter. Moreover, she points out the critical need for accountability and ongoing support for mediators to ensure quality and effectiveness in their practice.
Why Civilised Separations?
As Mabel Edge and her team work tirelessly to elevate the practice of child inclusive mediation, it becomes clear that this approach is not just about resolving disputes but about mending relationships. By giving children a voice, families can move towards healthier, more respectful interactions. The hope is that with continued advocacy and systemic reform, child inclusive mediation will become a cornerstone of family dispute resolution worldwide, helping to craft more resilient family dynamics in the years to come.
At Civilised Separations, we are committed to helping parents and professionals take this path. If you’re seeking guidance in your own journey, we invite you to explore our services or book a free consultation. Together, we can help you move from conflict to connection.
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Written by Mitch Wilkins
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