Redefining divorce with Sam woodham
In the latest episode of the Conflict to Connection podcast, Mitch from Civilised Separations is joined by Samantha Woodham, barrister and co-founder of The Divorce Surgery, to explore revolutionary shifts in the approach to divorce.
Samantha Woodham, The Divorce Surgery
Samantha, alongside Harry Gates, pioneers a non-adversarial model that aims to transform the divorcing process in the UK to one that is less adversarial, more cost-effective, and ultimately focused on the well-being of the entire family. For those navigating separation and the professionals who guide them, this episode uncovers the potential for a collaborative and less daunting legal journey.
One Lawyer, One Couple
Traditionally, divorce proceedings have been adversarial, pitting one party against the other. However, as Samantha highlights, there’s an increasing demand for a model that avoids unnecessary courtroom battles. The Divorce Surgery offers couples a chance to share legal advice through a single lawyer, removing the need for two separate legal teams. This shift promises not only financial savings but also a more amicable approach to resolving differences.
Changing the Stigma of Divorce
One of the more profound insights from our discussion is the need to change societal attitudes toward divorce. Samantha points out that despite divorce being a common life change, it remains heavily stigmatised. Drawing comparisons with other life events such as job changes, she emphasises that separation should not automatically be viewed in a negative light. Instead, it can be seen as a mutual positive decision for both the individual and familial well-being.
The Importance of Narrative in Separation
Having a coherent narrative can change how divorce is experienced by all involved. By presenting to family, friends, and especially children a united decision-making front, parents can foster a more stable environment during the transition. By having one lawyer, separating couples automatically show a united front to friends and family. This idea of 'divorce storytelling' encourages separating couples to frame their separation as a collaborative process aimed at maintaining family unity post-divorce.
Courts for finances - Mediation for Coparenting
Samantha further elaborates on the role of effective lawyers. She encourages lawyers to guide parents into engaging in mediation or seeking guidance from co-parenting specialists when needed, ensuring children remain the focal point of all discussions. This can ease future parenting arrangements, highlighting that courts should be a last resort for child arrangements and used most effectively for financial concerns further down the line.
Why Civilised Separations?
For separating couples or professionals aiding them, this episode is a reminder of the transformative power of collaborative divorce. Samantha's one lawyer, one couple model is encouraging as it focuses is on fairness, finances, family, and future happiness rather than solely adversarial legacies.
At Civilised Separations, we are committed to helping parents and professionals take this path. If you’re seeking guidance in your own journey, we invite you to explore our services or book a free consultation. Together, we can help you move from conflict to connection.
Civilised Separations
Written by Mitch Wilkins