Insights from James Pirrie on Family Law and Mediation
Finding a Better Way Through Separation
Separation is rarely straightforward. For parents and professionals alike, the process can be emotionally charged and overwhelming. Yet, there are approaches that move families away from conflict and towards constructive, dignified solutions.
In this episode of the Conflict to Connection podcast, we speak with James Pirrie, a highly respected solicitor, mediator, and director at Family Law in Partnership (FLiP). James has built his career pioneering progressive, client-centred approaches in family law. His insights shed light on how mediation and collaborative practice can transform even the most high conflict situations into opportunities for healing and new beginnings.
Whether you are a parent navigating a difficult separation or a professional supporting families, James’ reflections offer practical guidance and hope.
James Pirrie, FLiP
James Pirrie has been at the forefront of family law innovation for decades. As a Director at Family Law in Partnership (FLiP), he has helped to shape a culture where empathy, creativity, and respect are central to practice.
FLiP is widely recognised for its commitment to holistic support. Their team combines legal expertise with emotional and psychological insight, ensuring that clients feel supported not only in the courtroom but also in the real-life challenges that follow separation.
James’ work exemplifies this ethos, showing that family law can be both rigorous and compassionate.
From Legal Battles to Collaborative Solutions
Traditional litigation can sometimes entrench conflict rather than resolve it. James highlights the risks of adopting a “win or lose” mindset in family disputes. Instead, he champions an approach where both parents and their lawyers commit to resolving issues outside of court.
This model encourages creativity, cooperation, and solutions tailored to each family’s unique needs. For parents, this can mean outcomes that better reflect their children’s welfare and their long-term co-parenting goals. For professionals, it’s a reminder that our role is not simply to advise on the law, but to guide clients towards resolutions that preserve relationships and dignity.
James is clear that separation is not only a legal event, it is also an emotional journey. Parents may experience grief, anger, fear, or guilt, and these emotions often play out in the negotiation process.
Acknowledging these feelings is crucial. In mediation or collaborative settings, professionals can help clients process their emotions and ensure they do not derail constructive discussions. By addressing both the psychological and practical needs of families, James demonstrates how legal professionals can support parents in ways that foster lasting, positive change.
The Role of Mediation: Creating Space for Dialogue
Part of James’ approach is the belief that mediation provides a unique space where people feel heard. Unlike courtrooms, where adversarial positions often dominate, mediation allows parents to sit down together and work through their issues with the guidance of a neutral professional.
This process not only helps to resolve disputes more quickly and cost-effectively, but it also creates the foundation for healthier co-parenting relationships. By fostering dialogue, mediation enables families to move forward with more mutual respect and less hostility.
Why Civilised Separations?
The conversation with James Pirrie underscores a vital truth: separation does not have to mean destruction. With the right support - mediation, collaborative practice, and empathy - families can find solutions that preserve dignity, protect children, and open the door to healthier futures.
At Civilised Separations, we are committed to helping parents and professionals take this path. If you’re seeking guidance in your own journey, we invite you to explore our services or book a free consultation. Together, we can help you move from conflict to connection.
Civilised Separations
Written by Mitch Wilkins